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September 2009 
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Posted on Oct 5th, 2008
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Rach
Rach
I heard something really interesting and kind of disturbing the other night on the ride home from school.
It was from a tattooed guy who was talking to a girl on his mom's (bright pink) cell phone about a conversation they had a few nights before. Apparently, she had told him that she was in love with him, and from what I could tell from his end of the conversation they were good friends. He said to her at one point, "I don't know that I could ever say 'I love you' to someone and mean it. I think that phrase is thrown around too much anyway."
I got into a pretty long dialogue with that guy after he got off the phone. It started off with me saying, quite simply, "Liar."
After he got over the shock of a stranger's commentary on his life, we started to talk- about what he was afraid of, and why he didn't want to accept love ever again. It was an argument I've heard before, and one I'll never believe that anyone can truly and wholeheartedly believe in. He said that his heart had been broken too many times, and that he didn't think it was worth it to get into that situation again. He told me that people say they love one another too much and too often.
Forgive me, but what the hell? That is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. Love is the only thing we don't throw around enough. We say how we hate things, and many people do chide one another by reminding that hate is a strong word (I'm guilty of using it, too), but to limit oneself to not feeling love is to reduce yourself to a state that is entirely unnecessarily painful and weak. If you love something, someone, then say it. Remove whatever fear you have of rejection, of looking stupid or sappy, and sing it out. The strength to demonstrate love outweighs the strength to withold yourself from feeling it a thousandfold.
It was from a tattooed guy who was talking to a girl on his mom's (bright pink) cell phone about a conversation they had a few nights before. Apparently, she had told him that she was in love with him, and from what I could tell from his end of the conversation they were good friends. He said to her at one point, "I don't know that I could ever say 'I love you' to someone and mean it. I think that phrase is thrown around too much anyway."
I got into a pretty long dialogue with that guy after he got off the phone. It started off with me saying, quite simply, "Liar."
After he got over the shock of a stranger's commentary on his life, we started to talk- about what he was afraid of, and why he didn't want to accept love ever again. It was an argument I've heard before, and one I'll never believe that anyone can truly and wholeheartedly believe in. He said that his heart had been broken too many times, and that he didn't think it was worth it to get into that situation again. He told me that people say they love one another too much and too often.
Forgive me, but what the hell? That is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. Love is the only thing we don't throw around enough. We say how we hate things, and many people do chide one another by reminding that hate is a strong word (I'm guilty of using it, too), but to limit oneself to not feeling love is to reduce yourself to a state that is entirely unnecessarily painful and weak. If you love something, someone, then say it. Remove whatever fear you have of rejection, of looking stupid or sappy, and sing it out. The strength to demonstrate love outweighs the strength to withold yourself from feeling it a thousandfold.
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i COMPLETELY agree. i've had my heart broken over and over and really, it never hurt as bad as NOT pursuing the love would have. i'm reading this book called A Return to Love and it's amazing. i've always felt awkward about what a lover i am though. i'd tell people all the time i love them and it actually does scare people. i think that's weird. but they think i'm weirder. but the way i look at it. that's all i really have to offer someone. so if they can't take my love eh whatever but at least it's something i will never run out of. so why let the rejection discourage you??? why not just keep loving. the more love we put out the more we get back. it's like the free hugs i do. most people don't want anything to do with it. but to see the smile on the faces of the people that accept my free love (hug) is totally worth the 150 people that rejected me before the hugger came along. ya know??